A strong emotional bond is a vital key element in every healthy relationship to keep the flame and passion alive over the long haul. Humans want to be seen and deeply understood and connection keeps a relationship alive and thriving. Conflicts will arise in relationships sooner or later and while most sweep things under the rug or try not to let it affect their relationship, nevertheless the situation can escalate when issues are left unresolved. According to Giordana Toccaceli of the Embodied Feminine Woman Institute, here are some of the effective ways to develop an emotional connection in your relationship.
- Create a Comfortable Atmosphere
It’s imperative to create a space where your significant other can feel vulnerable, yet safe. They will find it easier to share their joys, dreams, and fears if you do the same. This is important for developing a higher level of trust and intimacy. Avoid making the mistake of using their weaknesses to attack them when there is a misunderstanding.
- Keep the Lines of Communication Open
Set aside time to communicate clearly with your partner and make it safe to share openly. Partners shut down and begin to perform when they feel they can’t be honest about how they feel with you. even if what they say makes you feel uncomfortable, it’s important to listen so you can both solve the real issue and not sweep them under the rug. Make sure that you not only do it as soon as you notice a problem, but you make it a weekly or daily practice to share openly with your partner. Let your partner know that you’re ready to address underlying issues as they come up, and that you are both one the same side. Being honest during your conversation will go a long way to finding a lasting solution.
- Identify the Signs of Emotional Disconnect
There is no need to be defensive or blame the other party when you’re struggling with an emotional disconnection. If you come at them as if they have intentionally worked to hurt you versus a common miscommunication or misunderstanding, they will shut down and pull away from you. Take time to learn how to communicate from a place of feeling and expression, and not blame and projection. Some of the signs to look out for that can create triggers and reactive pain are unmet needs, poor communication, and feeling helpless or lonely in the relationship.
- Self-Love is Crucial
Self-love helps individuals become emotionally available and emotionally safe to partners. You need to focus on yourself if you truly want to love your partner and not put on your partner unrealistic expectations which happens when self-love isn’t present. Even if you’re ready to meet the needs of your significant other, don’t neglect your needs or you will most likely show up needy and step into sabotaging mechanisms. Stay in tune with yourself and never give up your interests.
- Express Love in Different Ways
A significant percentage of men are clueless about what their women want. Loving your significant other starts with accepting them for who they are and sharing who you are in a way your partner can hear and learn from. Every day is a new opportunity to learn more about them and make it easy for them to learn about you versus expecting them to already know it perfectly and then blame them when they disappoint you. What is important to you in life? What do you like? What lights you up? Use the power of appreciation, expression and authenticity to share and invite the same in return. Most people discover different ways for their relationship to thrive when they pay more attention and listen to who their partner really is in their heart instead of the idea they have of their partner in their heads. Holding hands, kissing, listening deeply, giving your partner space, tending to your own needs so you come from a whole and happier place are great ways to keep the flame alive in your relationship. You can also give them thoughtful gifts from time to time.
- Offer Unconditional Support
It goes without saying that support from a healthy relationship can permeate to other aspects of your life. Try to support your partner, whether they are planning to lose weight, overcome an addiction, or any other goal they may have. Support their mission in life by finding out what is important to them and making it important to you. Consider asking your partner how you can help them reach their goals and what truly feels like support to them.
- Seek professional help
When all else fails, it’s advisable for couples to visit a therapist to try and make things work. Truth be told, it can be daunting to leave the rut of unhealthy patterns in a relationship. Perhaps you and your partner need to heal first. A qualified expert can assist you in unravelling the root cause of your problems and design a plan that is perfect for both parties.
For even more advice, refer to the Embodied Feminine Woman Institute.